2013 Tip of the Day #20: Etiquette With Cosplayers


photoettiquette1One of the most celebrated and defining aspects of the San Diego Comic-Con has been cosplay. As one of the most identifying characteristics of SDCC, cosplay has been celebrated, satirized, and embraced over the past 4 decades as the community has grown with the show. The SDCC costumed artists has become one of the epicenters of the larger cosplay movement that has spread globally. The origins of the our beloved cosplay term is quite interesting:

“The term cosplay is a portmanteau of the English words costume and play. The term was coined by Nobuyuki Takahashi of the Japanese studio Studio Hard while attending the 1984 World Science Fiction Convention (Worldcon) in Los Angeles. He was impressed by the hall and the costumed fans and reported on both in Japanese science fiction magazines. The coinage reflects a common Japanese method of abbreviation in which the first two moras of a pair of words are used to form an independent compound. Costume becomes kosu (コス), and play becomes pure (プレ).” (From Wiki)

cosplay-meagan-marie-1Besides proving that Asians are just awesome, it’s clear that after 30 years, cosplay is here to stay. However, as much as cosplay has evolved over the decades, so has the etiquette surrounding it. Around 2007-8 when Comic-Con shot up to meteoric status, I think some of the ‘growing pains’ was felt most by the cosplay community. I remember seeing a wave of YouTube videos of guys making snarky and lewd comments to as many sexy cosplayers as they could find. Ogling cosplayers was part of the norm during those explosive years but that is starting to change. Over the past year, many cosplayers like Meagan Marie, have spoken out about the theme that “cosplay is not consent”. Cosplay may be funny at times but sexual harassment is not. I remember in 2008 feeling pretty disturbed by the objectification of these cosplayers at the hands (and eyes) of so called YouTube ‘journalists’. I’m glad to see it has diminished a little and to see that cosplay is being embraced for the art, not the boobs. We still have a long way to go but I think Comic-Con is the environment to lead that change. Like any important issue, it’s a complex one which takes a lot of dialogue. So as we discuss the issues, here are some tips to cosplay etiquette at Comic-Con:

  • Respect: A cosplayer’s desire is to enhance the Comic-Con experience, inspire through their art, and express their fandom. They may come in all shapes and sizes, but they want to be treated with respect. Just like any public place, there is a difference between appreciating beauty and ogling something sexually. Regardless of costume, treat a cosplayer as the respected artist that they are. Maintaining eye contact is a good habit to form.
  • Permission: Always ask to take a picture. A cosplayer wants to give you the best photo as possible, which usually means striking a pose, position, or facial expression. Just clicking a pic without warning diminishes their year round hard work and preparation. I know you many not want to interrupt a cosplayer, but they would rather stop for a good photo than have a bad one floating around on the interweb.
  • TIming: Good timing = common sense. Don’t approach a cosplayer when they’re eating lunch, dismantled and resting, in the bathroom, sitting in panel, etc. Wait till they are ‘on the job’ to ask to take their pics.
  • Rules of Engagement:  Look with your eyes not your hands. Many costumes are made with delicate materials and 1000 oily hands are going to ruin it. Even when you take a pic with a cosplayer make sure it’s ok to put your arm around them. Again, cosplay is not consent.
  • Keep it Brief: A cosplayers commitment is to the overall fans- not to any one person. It’s not a great time to try to start up a lengthy conversation, unless they are encouraging it. Just be mindful of others around you and not dominating a cosplayers time.
  • Wonder Twins: A lot of cosplayers are open to pairing up for a short while if you have a costume of matching theme and skill level. However, don’t take offense if they would rather go solo. It doesn’t matter what their reason is, just be cool and cosplay on.
  • Safe Space: Do your part to create a ‘safe space’ for cosplayers at Comic-Con. That means if you see inappropriate behavior from a fan to a cosplayer, report it to a staff member. This means sexual harassment of any kind. The worst thing in the world would be if Comic-Con got a reputation for not being safe to the cosplay community. Remember, Comic-Con is about celebrating heroes- so you can be a hero by protecting our beloved cosplayers.

tumblr_mp9qsqz9v41qer8czo4_500Overall, cosplayers are at Comic-Con to not only have a great time but to make sure YOU have a great time. Where would we be without them? Many cosplayers plan, save up, invest countless hours, and obsess over the smallest details to make sure their costumes are perfect for you. Make sure to make them feel appreciated and respected. We want Comic-Con to be the premier platform for the world’s finest costumes- and we as fans have control over that. As long as we value and encourage our cosplayers, they will bring their very best to the show. Thanks for letting me rant and thanks for all of you who have championed this cause before me. If you ever had a negative experience as a cosplayer share a comment about how it made you feel below. Thanks and see you in 15 days!

The super cute drawing was done by my new friend Emily at http://paintingemily.tumblr.com/.
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9 thoughts on “2013 Tip of the Day #20: Etiquette With Cosplayers

  1. Can I just say this post made me cry? As a woman I’m reluctant to cosplay b/c of all the concerns you mention. It’s so beautiful to read the genuine love, care, and respect you have for this community to gently call attention to this issue.

    • There is still too many assumptions by men that this isn’t an issue. Some men feel like that it’s warranted to be inappropriate with a ‘sexy’ cosplayer. Hopefully this post, along with others writers, can help in some small way raise awareness and make it different in the future. Thanks for sharing and for commenting!

  2. Awesome job as always Tony and dead on with this article. Its all about having a fun experience, so have fun and be kind and respectfull. There will always be the very few that try and bring everyone down, but the fun times and the ‘Good’ will always prevail ! 😉

    XO – LeeAnna Vamp
    twitter @Vamp

    • From a cosplay pro herself! You certainly have seen and experienced it all! Thanks for commenting and thanks for bringing such a joy and passion to the cosplay world and fandom. We love ya!

  3. True Mischief Productions is a cosplay scam. I’ve personally been affected by it. Please cosplayers if it sounds to good to be true it likely is. Please use common sense when dealing with ‘companies’ What happened to me was the ‘boss’ asked me to do something I was uncomfortable with. I tried to geta round it but he was really pushy. I finally said no! and he turned around and said well then i don’t need you despite my time and efforts for the ‘company’ Please dont fall pray to scammers like True Mischief Productions.

    • Woah, that is too bad. Again, you have be discerning when it comes to these so called ‘cosplay companies’. Thanks for the heads up and I hope it didn’t turn you off from cosplaying in the future. Thanks for sharing your story.

    • Kat I am trying to help keep my niece from making this mistake do you know more girls that have had the same problem with
      True Mischief Productions

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